Let us read the first 8 verses of the chapter:
1 Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father;
and the younger men as brethren;
2 The elder women as mothers; the younger as
sisters, with all purity.
3 Honour widows that are widows indeed.
4 But if any widow have children or nephews, let
them learn first to shew piety at home, and to
requite their parents: for that is good and
acceptable before God.
5 Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate,
trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and
prayers night and day.
6 But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she
liveth.
7 And these things give in charge, that they may be
blameless.
8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially
for those of his own house, he hath denied the
faith, and is worse than an infidel.
CHURCH AND FAMILY DUTY
Honour widows who are genuinely in a widow’s
destitute position. But if any widow has children or
grandchildren, let such children learn to begin by
discharging the duties of religion in their own
homes; and let them learn to give a return for all
that their parents have done for them; for this is
the kind of conduct that meets with God’s approval.
Now she who is genuinely in the position of a widow,
and who is left all alone, has set her hope on God,
and night and day she devotes herself to petitions
and prayers. But she who lives with voluptuous
wantonness is dead even though she is still alive.
Pass on these instructions that they may be
irreproachable. If anyone fails to provide for his
own people, and especially for the members of his
own family, he has denied the faith and is worse
than an unbeliever.
THE Christian Church inherited a fine tradition of
charity to those in need. No nation has ever cared
more for the needy and the elderly than the Jews.
Advice is now given for the care of widows. There
may well have been two classes of women here. There
were certainly widows who had become widows in the
normal way by the death of their husbands. But it
was not uncommon in the Gentile world, in certain
places, for a man to have more than one wife. When a
man became a Christian, he could not go on being a
polygamist, and therefore he had to choose which
wife he was going to live with. That meant that some
wives had to be sent away, and they were clearly in
a very unfortunate position. It may be that such
women as these were also considered to be widows and
were given the support of the Church. Jewish law
laid it down that at the time of his marriage a man
ought to make provision for his wife, should she
become a widow. The very first office-bearers whom
the Christian Church appointed had this duty of
caring fairly for the widows (Acts 6:1). Ignatius
lays it down: ‘Let not widows be neglected. After
the Lord be thou their guardian.’ The Apostolic
Constitutions direct the bishop: ‘O bishop, be
mindful of the needy, both reaching out thy helping
hand and making provision for them as the steward of
God, distributing the offerings seasonably to every
one of them, to the widows, the orphans, the
friendless, and those tried with affliction.’ The
same book has an interesting and kindly instruction:
‘If anyone receives any service to carry to a widow
or poor woman . . . let him give it the same day.’
As the proverb has it, ‘He gives twice who gives
quickly’ – and the Church was concerned that those
in poverty should not have to remain in need while
one of its servants delayed.
It is to be noted that the Church did not propose to
assume responsibility for older people whose
children were alive and well able to support them.
The ancient world was very definite that it was the
duty of children to support elderly parents; and, as
E. K. Simpson has pointed out in his commentary, ‘A
religious profession which falls below the standard
of duty recognized by the world is a wretched
fraud.’ The Church would never have agreed that its
charity should become an excuse for children to
evade their responsibility.
The New Testament ethical writers were certain that
support of parents was an essential part of
Christian duty. It is something to be remembered. We
live in a time when even the most sacred duties are
pushed on to the state and when we expect, in so
many cases, public charity to do what private piety
ought to do. As the Pastorals see it, help given to
a parent is two things. First, it is an honouring of
the recipient. It is the only way in which children
can demonstrate the esteem that they feel. Second,
it is an admission of the claims of love. It is
repaying love received in time of need with love
given in time of need; and only with love can love
be repaid.
There remains one thing left to say, and to leave it
unsaid would be unfair. This passage goes on to lay
down certain of the qualities of the people whom the
Church is called upon to support. What is true of
the Church is true within the family. If a person
is to be supported, that person must be supportable.
If a parent is taken into the home of a son or
daughter and then by inconsiderate conduct causes
nothing but trouble, another situation arises. There
is a double duty here – the duty of the child to
support the parent, and the duty of the parent to
behave in such a way that that support is possible
within the structure of the home.
~this text from the
Barclay Commentary
Now to the commentaries...
The verse is in four parts:
1] But if any provide not for his own.
2] And specially for those of his own house.
3] He hath denied the faith.
4] And is worse than an infidel.
1] But if any provide not for his own.
But if any provide not for
his own - His own people or relatives.
~Adam Clarke
But if any provide not for his own
- Not only for his wife and children, but for his
parents, when grown old, and cannot help themselves:
~John Gill
But if any provide not for
his own - The apostle was speaking 1 Timothy
5:4 particularly of the duty of children toward a
widowed mother.
1 Timothy 5:4
But if any widow have children or nephews, let them
learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite
their parents: for that is good and acceptable
before God.
In enforcing that duty, he gives the subject, as he
often does in similar cases, a general direction,
and says that all ought to provide for those who
were dependent on them, and that if they did not do
this, they had a less impressive sense of the
obligations of duty than even the pagan had. On the
duty here referred to, compare Romans 12:17 note; 2
Corinthians 8:21 note. The meaning is, that the
person referred to is to think beforehand (προνοεἶ
pronoei) of the probable needs of his own
family, and make arrangements to meet them. God thus
provides for our needs; that is, he sees beforehand
what we shall need, and makes arrangements for those
needs by long preparation. The food that we eat, and
the raiment that we wear, he foresaw that we should
need, and the arrangement for the supply was made
years since, and to meet these needs he has been
carrying forward the plans of his providence in the
seasons; in the growth of animals; in the formation
of fruit; in the bountiful harvest. So, according to
our measure, we are to anticipate what will be the
probable needs of our families, and to make
arrangements to meet them. The words “his own,”
refer to those who are naturally dependent on him,
whether living in his own immediate family or not.
There may be many distant relatives naturally
dependent on our aid, besides those who live in our
own house. ~Barnes
Notes
Quoted verses:
Romans 12:17
Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things
honest in the sight of all men.
Here is the commentary on this verse:
Recompense
- Render, give, or return; see the note at
Matthew 5:39. This is probably one of the
most difficult precepts of Christianity; but
the law of Christ on the subject is
unyielding. It is a solemn demand made on
all his followers, and it “must” be obeyed.
Provide - The
word rendered “provide” means properly to
“think” or “meditate beforehand.” Make it a
matter of “previous thought,” of “settled
plan,” of “design.” This direction would
make it a matter of “principle” and fixed
purpose to do what is right; and not to
leave it to the fluctuations of feeling, or
to the influence of excitement. The same
direction is given in 2 Corinthians 8:21.
~Barnes Notes
Quoted verse:
2 Corinthians
8:21
Providing for honest things, not only in the
sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of
men.
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Here is the commentary on 2 Corinthians 8:21
Providing for honest things
- The expression used here occurs in Romans
12:17 [quoted above];
see the note on that place. In that place,
however, it refers to the manner in which we
are to treat those who injure us; here it
refers to the right way of using property;
and it seems to have been a kind of maxim by
which Paul regulated his life, a “vade
mecum” that was applicable to everything.
The sentiment is, that we are to see to it
beforehand that all our conduct shall be
comely or honest. The word rendered
“providing for” (προνωύμενοι
pronōumenoi) means foreseeing,
or perceiving beforehand; and the idea is,
that we are to make it a matter of previous
calculation, a settled plan, a thing that is
to be attended to of set design. In the
middle voice, the form in which it occurs
here, it means to provide for in one’s own
behalf; to apply oneself to anything; to
practice diligently - Robinson. The word
rendered “things honest” (καλὰ
kala) means properly beautiful,
or comely.
The idea which is presented here is, that we
are to see beforehand, or we are to make it
a matter of set purpose that what we do
shall be comely, that is, just, honorable,
correct, not only in the sight of the Lord,
but in the sight of mankind. Paul applies
this in his own case to the alms which were
to be entrusted to him. His idea is, that he
meant so to conduct in the whole transaction
as that his conduct should be approved by
God, but that it should also be regarded as
beautiful or correct in the sight of people.
He knew how much his own usefulness depended
on an irreproachable character. He,
therefore, procured the appointment of one
who had the entire confidence of the
churches to travel with him. But there is no
reason for confining this to the particular
case under consideration. It seems to have
been the leading maxim of the life of Paul,
and it should be of ours. The maxim may be
applied to everything which we have to do;
and should constantly regulate us.
It may be applied to the acquisition and use
of property; to the discharge of our
professional duties; to our contact with
others; to our treatment of inferiors and
dependents; to our charities, etc. - in all
of which we should make it a matter of
previous thought, of earnest diligence, that
our conduct should be perfectly honest and
comely before God and man. Let us learn from
this verse also, that ministers of the
gospel should be especially careful that
their conduct in money matters and
especially in the appropriation of the
charities of the church, should be above
suspicion. Much is often entrusted to their
care, and the churches and individual
Christians often commit much to their
discretion. Their conduct in this should be
without reproach; and in order to this, it
is well to follow the example of Paul, and
to insist that others who have the entire
confidence of the churches should be
associated with them. Nothing is easier than
to raise a slanderous report against a
minister of the gospel; and nothing
gratifies a wicked world more than to be
able to do it - and perhaps especially if it
pertains to some improper use of money. It
is not easy to meet such reports when they
are started; and a minister, therefore,
should be guarded, as Paul was, at every
possible point, that he may be freed from
that “whose breath outvenoms all the worms
of Nile”
~Barnes Notes
Things honest
- Literally, things “beautiful,” or
“comely.” The expression here does not refer
to “property,” or to “provision” made for a
family, etc. The connection requires us to
understand it respecting “conduct,” and
especially our conduct toward those who
injure us. It requires us to evince a
spirit, and to manifest a deportment in such
cases, that shall be lovely and comely in
the view of others; such as all people will
approve and admire. And the apostle wisely
cautions us to “provide” for this, that is,
to think of it beforehand, to make it a
matter of fixed principle and purpose, so
that we shall not be overtaken and excited
by passion. If left to the time when the
offence shall be given, we may be excited
and off our guard, and may therefore evince
an improper temper. All persons who have
ever been provoked by injury (and
who has not been?) will see the
profound wisdom of this caution to
“discipline” and “guard” the temper by
previous purpose, that we may not evince an
improper spirit.
~Barnes Notes
In the sight of all
men - Such as all must approve; such
that no man can blame; and, therefore, such
as shall do no discredit to religion. This
expression is taken from Proverbs 3:4. The
passage shows that people may be expected to
approve a mild, kind, and patient temper in
the reception of injuries; and facts show
that this is the case. The Christian spirit
is one that the world “must” approve,
however little it is disposed to act on it.
~Barnes Notes
Quoted
Verse:
Proverbs 3:4
So shalt thou find favour and good
understanding in the sight of God and man.
2 Corinthians
8:21
...quoted above
Providing for honest things, not only in the
sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of
men.
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2] And specially for those of his own house.
Those of his own house
- That is, his own family, or a poor widow or
relative that lives under his roof.
~Adam Clarke
And specially for those of
his own house - Margin, “kindred.” The word
“house,” or “household,” better expresses the sense
than the word “kindred.” The meaning is, those who
live in his own family. They would naturally have
higher claims on him than those who did not. They
would commonly be his nearer relatives, and the
fact, from whatever cause, that they constituted his
own family, would lay the foundation for a strong
claim upon him. He who neglected his own immediate
family would be more guilty than he who neglected a
more remote relative.
~Barnes Notes
And specially for
those of his own house - that is, who are of
the same household of faith with him; see Galatians
6:10, and so the Syriac version renders it, "and
especially those who are the children of the house
of faith"; for though the tie of nature obliges him
to take care of them, yet that of grace makes the
obligation still more strong and binding; and he
must act both the inhuman and the unchristian part,
that does not take care of his pious parents:
wherefore it follows,
~John Gill
Quoted verse:
Galatians 6:10
As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good
unto all men, especially unto them who are of the
household of faith.
3] He hath denied the faith.
Hath denied the faith
- The Christian religion, which strongly inculcates
[teaches frequently]
love and benevolence to all mankind.
~Adam Clarke
he hath denied the faith
- the doctrine of faith, though not in words, yet in
works; and is to be considered in the same light,
and to be dealt with as an apostate from the
Christian religion.
~John Gill
He hath denied the faith
- By his conduct, perhaps, not openly. He may be
still a professor of religion and do this; but he
will show that he is imbued with none of the spirit
of religion, and is a stranger to its real nature.
The meaning is, that he would, by such an act, have
practically renounced Christianity, since it enjoins
this duty on all. We may hence learn that it is
possible to deny the faith by conduct as well as by
words; and that a neglect of doing our duty is as
real a denial of Christianity as it would be openly
to renounce it. Peter denied his Lord in one way,
and thousands do the same thing in another. He did
it in words; they by neglecting their duty to their
families, or their duty in their closets, or their
duty in attempting to send salvation to their
fellow-men [spreading
the gospel], or by an openly irreligious
life. A neglect of any duty is so far a denial of
the faith. ~Barnes
Notes
4] And is worse than an infidel.
Is worse than an infidel
- For what are called the dictates of nature lead
men to feel for and provide for their own families.
Heathen writers are full of maxims of this kind;
Tacitus says: Liberos cuique ac propinquos Natura
carissimos esse voluit. “Nature dictates that to
every one his own children and relatives should be
most dear.” And Cicero, in Epist. ad Caption: Suos
quisque debet tueri. “Every man should take care of
his own family.” ~Adam
Clarke
And is worse than an infidel
- for the very Heathens are taught and
directed by the light of nature to take care of
their poor and aged parents.
~John Gill
And is worse than an infidel
- The word here does not mean an infidel,
technically so called, or one who openly professes
to disbelieve Christianity, but anyone who does not
believe; that is, anyone who is not a sincere
Christian. The word, therefore, would include the
pagan, and it is to them, doubtless, that the
apostle particularly refers. They acknowledged the
obligation to provide for their relatives. This was
one of the great laws of nature written on their
hearts, and a law which they felt bound to obey. Few
things were inculcated more constantly by pagan
moralists than this duty. Gelgacus, in Tacitus,
says, “Nature dictates that to every one, his own
children and relatives should be most dear.” Cicero
says, “Every man should take care of his own family
“ The doctrine here is:
(1) that a Christian ought not to be inferior to an
unbeliever in respect to any virtue;
(2) that in all that constitutes true virtue he
ought to surpass him;
(3) that the duties which are taught by nature ought
to be regarded as the more sacred and obligatory
from the fact that God has given us a better
religion; and,
(4) that a Christian ought never to give occasion to
an enemy of the gospel to point to a man of the
world and say, “there is one who surpasses you in
any virtue.” ~Barnes
Notes
I want end with a couple of quotes
regarding care for the family.
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a
smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest
compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of
which have the potential to turn a life around."
"Never believe that a few caring people can't change
the world. For, indeed, that's all who ever have."
"My guiding principles in life are to be honest,
genuine, thoughtful and caring."
~Prince William
"Live so that when your children think of fairness,
caring, and integrity, they think of you."
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